An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: Home At Last

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Home At Last

Got home about 11:30 Tuesday night. 2036 total miles on the bike. It was a good ride.

I have the need for a couple of workers for about 2-3 weeks. One of the things I deliberated a lot about while I was riding was whether to give my son a chance to work. Finally after a lot of soul searching I have decided to give him a chance to work. I figure, he needs a chance and if he screws up I will have no problem firing him after all we have been through. It will be simple work stamping out parts on a press. It requires 2 people so he will not be alone and I have a person that will supervise him that takes no guff.

My hope is with the intense structure of the residence center and an eight hour job doing labor work maybe he can start a path of change.

I'm really not sure I am doing right but I live the the consequences of my decisions, he must live with his.

7 comments:

sydney said...: I know you think you are doing the kind and generous thing, and you ARE - but I just think this is a great opportunity for him to learn how to stand on his own two feet without help. It's an important life lesson.; June 18, 2009 at 2:01 PM
Syd said...: I hope that it works out. Glad that you got back safely.; June 18, 2009 at 8:07 PM
clean and crazy said...: i am so glad you enjoyed your ride. i went to a meeting the other night and a woman was there who was not an addict, and when she shared, she said her son was an addict. and he was using hard, like me. and she was scared and saw the address to the meeting hall and came in. it was a womens meeting. i think at this point every woman was crying. and she said we gave her hope and she really needed that right now. it is so scary being a parent. my little ones don't know much about the real world, and i cannot shelter them from it. i see a lot of myself in my 3 year old and it scares me. i don't want my babies to go through this. you know though that is what i signed up for as a parent. no matter what i am their parent and will love them and always try to be supportive. i may not always make the right choices for them, but i will always try. the lady made me miss my mom, you make me miss my dad. when he gets some recovery, he will hug you very hard and love you for all you do.; June 18, 2009 at 9:12 PM
mother of drug addict said...: I think you have to do what you feel in your heart is right for him. I think I would do the same thing. I t may or may not work but hay at least you tried and that is the best you can do!
Glad you had a good trip and are home safe!; June 19, 2009 at 5:59 AM
Unknown said...: You seem to be realistic about the idea -- give him a chance, if he blows it he's fired. He needs something to do.; June 19, 2009 at 1:01 PM
Anonymous said...: I'm so glad that you had time to clear your head. Sometimes, our kid's addiction takes over our daily thoughts. I admire your willingness to give your son a chance to work. My son's job has given my son structure, life skills and I'm so thankful for it.
Happy Father's Day. From all that I read about you, you are a wonderful and loving dad and husband.

Debby
www.howismyson.blogspot.com; June 21, 2009 at 9:35 AM
kristi said...: Wow, that is a lot of miles. Is your butt sore?? LOL!
We drove a little over 1300 miles round trip and we were tired!; June 22, 2009 at 12:45 PM