Afterwards we went to dinner. I ask mom, "What did you think?" She thought it was a good visit.
She ask me, "What did you think?" I said, thought he was conning himself. He spoke of getting a job and getting his fines paid and he thought the rules were ridiculously strict. We told him good, glad they are strict. He spoke of getting out and getting into an Oxford House. He had already got in trouble for back talking.
Curiously absent, no mention of apology for what he had been doing. Unless prodded, no mention of stop using. Just another list of what he wants us to bring him.
I told mom that I believe until he becomes contrite and has enough moments of self reflection there will be no healing, there will only be him conning himself. To me that is the worst con, honesty with self must come before honesty to others.