Wednesday, June 26, 2013

I Have To Pinch Myself Sometimes

On Friday at 9am Alex closes on his house.

Sometimes I find my fingers striking keys on this keyboard that I never dreamed would be strung together in a sentence. Just shows me how limiting my dreams can be when they are applied to someone else. That's a good lesson for myself, allow each person to be all they can be and who knows, you may be surprised.

I always had high expectations for my kids. I kinda see the flaw in that thinking now. Nothing wrong with high expectations for them but allowing their success or falling short of those expectations cannot define me.

Monday poor little Tyler broke his toe and had to get a couple of stitches. I expected to go down there to visit him last night and find him limping and curled up on the couch being a hurt little baby. When we drove up he was sitting in a chair on the front porch with his daddy. He smiled and got down as if there was no bandage and big protective sock on his foot. He ran, not limped over to the toy box pulled out his bat and ball and immediately threw the ball to grandpa. He wanted play ball. Once again my preconceived expectations were less than what was real and possible.

Before we left Alex was sitting alone on the couch and I said to him, "Son, I am proud of you. What you have done in just a couple years well......I would never have dreamed. I am proud."

His response, "Thank you, I couldn't have done it without you guys."

Heart in throat moment.

Friday, June 14, 2013

Urban Outfitters

On May 1st I posted about Urban Outfitters selling prescription drug themed merchandise and asking them to discontinue this line of products. I ask you all for help.

Here is a press release issued by Urban Outfitters about discontinuing this line of merchandise!!!

Thank you ALL for your help and letters.

Interesting Video Of Facts About Pregnancy and Drugs

Here is an interesting video of facts concerning drug abuse and pregnancy. I am not endorsing the rehab center attached but I thought the statistics were interesting.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Monday, June 10, 2013


Effective today, June 10, 2013 Alex is no longer under ANY government control. He has met and satisfied all probation (early) and he is no longer under probation for ANYONE. He has paid off all of his fines.

For every parent or addict out there reading this, there is life after. BELIEVE! Believe in yourself and make it happen. There is no one too far gone that they can't accept recovery. Parents or addict, it can happen for you. Day by day hope and love is all around.

Thursday, June 6, 2013

It's Me Again

It's been almost a month since I last wrote. I think this has been the longest I have ever gone without posting, please forgive me. I have been reading and commenting to other blogs and answering e-mails.

Not much going on except work and life. Tired of the rain and cool weather. I'm a summer guy give me 85 and 90 degrees any day and I am happy.

Work is busy, working overtime, orders coming in like crazy. I am hiring people, hourly and management. That is an experience of highs and lows. Interviewing and hiring is a part of my job that I actually like and find rewarding. Finding the right person is always a challenge. Most people only have the experience of sitting on the other side of the desk and being interviewed. I know how stressful it is from both sides. Good interviewers and HR people know that it is as hard to interview as it is being interviewed. The highs are when you find that person and you make that call offering a position. From experience you can hear a different tone and reaction when you utter that line, "The reason I am calling is to offer you a position with......." The down side is writing those reject letters and putting them in the mail. I know the same day I really make someone happy I am disappointing many others.

The good news on the home front is that Alex is buying a house. I still have to pinch myself to make sure I am awake. I NEVER dreamed in all those years my son would ever reach this point. That's a lesson to be learned, never wish, dream or hope because sometimes you cannot imagine the possibility of reality.

They have made an offer on a house and it has been accepted. I'm not going to post pictures yet, I don't want to jinx it. But you can trust me it is dad approved. They had me looking at all of them they looked at to critique the condition and construction. They got angry at me with the first three because I pointed out several reasons they were not good homes from condition to construction issues. They thought I was just picking on their choices and got angry with me. But when they learned what to look for then they began to understand my critiques.

All of the grand kids are growing like weeds. Brooke is horse crazy at 4 years old. I don't understand it, none of us are horse people. I bought her a certificate for a trail ride and her mother went with her and she got to ride a real horse on a trail. I am afraid I did a very bad thing. Is there a 12 step program for horse addiction? I think I am an enabler.

Tyler is a ball of non-stop energy. That boy doesn't stop. He is very inquisitive, in a good way. Owen is a man boy. At only 10 months he has a very distinct preference to hang with the guys.

In August I will be going to New York for some special training provided by The Partnership at I have been ask to be a part of a new initiative and get this training. I am excited and actually honored to think they believe I could contribute and help other parents so much. The training is centered around the C.R.A.F.T. methodology that is proving to be so effective with young adult addiction. It comes from the book I have recommended to so many, "Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives To Nagging Pleading and Threatening" by Robert Myers and Brenda Wolfe. I read this book a long time ago and so many things just made sense to me, it clicked.

Just an update from KC. I do wish everyone's loved one could find what Alex found. You can't know how much I think about everyone and wish for that everyday.