It is good to have our son acting like he is honestly trying. It is important for dad to be patient, not one of my natural traits. I have to keep tempering my expectations to what is possible right now.
We went to dinner last night with some family, he went with us. Before we left he was very normal and relaxed. But when we left for the restaurant he began to get nervous, when he gets nervous he talks constantly. Kind of like someone at a much lower maturity level but I understand that. I just have to remind myself and be patient. If he is serious about changing he will learn. The bright spot at dinner was he minded his manners, did not wolf his food and never got up during the whole dinner. He was able to talk to his grandpa over dinner. For some of you dealing with an addicted child I'm sure you understand. As soon as we got home his nervousness subsided and he was back to normal and calm.
Dad has to keep working on himself. I must learn to live in the world of what is and not in the world of what ought to be.