Our son is home again. Food must be really bad in jail. When he gets home anything even resembling food is a target and it takes about 2 days for him to get satisfied.
Saturday is his 21st birthday. We are trying to make plans for going out to dinner with him. I think it would be wise to keep him busy and occupied. He swears this is the real deal this time but ............ (fingers and toes crossed each day)
Easter on Sunday and everyone is coming to our house. We will have a house full of people and lots of food. Hope it doesn't rain and is warm. That way overflow we can go outside to relax and sit around the deck and koi pond.
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7 comments:
Glad he is home and safe.
OOH 21 is such a rite of passage in our culture, it was 18 for us!I know that I couldn't wait to be old enough to drink at that age( not that I wasn't already). Good luck keeping him busy, sounds like you've got a good plan.jeNN
Happy Easter, maybe you and mom can get him to help color eggs, like we did when we were little. Then again maybe that is just a girl thing.
I remember 21. It was like 20 I think. I'm glad that I'm where I am now and don't have to go back there.
I just found you today and would like to thank you for sharing your experiences and your feelings during the journey. My son will be 21 also, in August. He's an alcoholic with drugs on the side. I understand "mom" taking the soft side as I seem to have no control again either. Hopefully I will get back to the "tough love" paradigm shift, but for now my son is "home again" also.
Good luck with Easter! I know that I wish Kelly could be here on Easter, but I will settle for Saturday, as I understand the stress trigger holidays can cause. Happy Easter to all!
From what you have said your son seems genuine this time. 21 is a hard time but if he wants sobriety there shouldnt be a problem. try not to assume too much though, that just leads to fights and fighting is a huge trigger for addicts like me. Also instead of dreading everyday that he is there try to enjoy it because it truly is a gift that he is there. and remember the mistakes he has made in the past truly isnt his character its his addiction he just wasnt strong enough to identify it. him making it to 21 is a gift in itself. your son really does love you, and sorry to say but you will never understand the horrible conflict within himself that he ahs to go through everyday, so the best way to help is by praising him when good things happen. and a goo thing doesnt have to be him winning the olympics it could be as simple as making it another day clean. it sounds like you guys really could make it, you seem very determined and have alot of love for your son, try not to lose it.
respectfully,
a fellow addict
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