The question haunted my every waking moment.It wasn’t supposed to be this way.I had moved from planning a high school graduation party to shopping for my son’s first rehab.What about college?What about all the other kids in his graduating class who were moving on to a new chapter in their lives?What about those hopes and dreams I had carried for my child for 19 years?How did we get HERE?
I simply had to have an answer to that question.I thought I had done a good job as a parent raising my two children.I had scaled my work schedule back to part-time when they were growing up to spend more time at home with them. I volunteered in the preschools and schools they attended, helped with their extracurricular activities, attended Church with them, sent them to Church camp each summer, chaperoned their events, vacationed with them as a family, shared family meals with them every evening and helped with homework.How did we get here?
In time the question changed.How do we fix this?Surely if I read books, attended parent support groups, found the right counselors, doctors, recovery coaches, rehab programs, aftercare groups, halfway houses and sober living establishments we could find out what to do to put this all behind us and get our lives back on track.Now it didn’t matter how we got here if we could just find a cure.
That was three years ago.Today I don't ask those questions.There are no answers.
Today I have come to a place of acceptance.I have been affected by my son’s addiction.I wish it had never become a part of our lives.To question, however, why it happened, or spend time trying to control it is a waste of my time and energy.Instead I have accepted it as a part of our lives.I can live my life torturing myself in an attempt to find answers to questions that do not exist.Or I can live my life accepting the reality of what is.And along the way I can learn from every life experience.
My son's life has not unfolded as I had planned, and I cannot see into his future. His life will continue along on its journey. I do not know what the path ahead will look like. It will be different than I had imagined it would be. Perhaps it will turn out better than I ever could have hoped for.
Today my son is again in rehab.Today is a good day.
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Dad and Mom are parents of 3 and grandparents of three. Our oldest is the manager of Pediatrics at one of the top medical centers in the nation, the middle daughter takes care of our granddaughter and a couple other precious children. Our youngest is troubled with an addiction to drugs but is currently over 2.5 years clear and sober working at a company principally involved in foam and foam fabrication. Our blog is about his addiction and parenting an addict.
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