Thursday, April 1, 2010

The Peace of NOT Knowing

I haven't had any contact with my son since bailing him of jail. That was the issue of my last post. Lots of disagreement between Mom and I about that action but like in the past when we are not on the same page we always default to the most conservative position.

He is staying at his girlfriends. I must assume he is being straight or she would have tossed him by now. She is pretty adamant about his using, according to our son she grew up with an addicted mother so she says she isn't putting up with another life like that.

Easter is coming up. He usually calls his mother each day to tell her he is alive and not in jail. I assume she will tell him of Easter visit plans with our relatives. I guess it is her call. What is really great none of our extended family has abandoned us or him. Just how great are all of those people!

8 comments:

Bristolvol said...

Have a happy, peaceful Easter with your family!

Barbara said...

You have a great family. You are a great family. I hope you have a nice Easter. Have you been able to take the bike out lately? Or is it still winter there?

Dad and Mom said...

10 days ago we had 8" of snow. Yesterday and today it is 85. Kansas weather, if you don't like what you got just wait for teh next hour it will change.

Heather's Mom said...

I totally understand "the peace of not knowing".

My gosh, I forgot Easter was this weekend (obviously we have no plans! lol!) It does sound like you have a wonderful *extended* family, and your family. I hope however it turns out with A for that day that you and Mom have an enjoyable Easter and Kansas has happy spring weather for the day!

God bless.

Fractalmom said...

the peace of not knowing is bittersweet, but nice none the less. it's sort of like a big relief.

Anonymous said...

Happy Easter, and thank you for this blog. I am a 31 year old alcoholic, 54 days sober, and reading your blog helps me no end. My parents are supportive, but it's good to be reminded that if I relapse again I face losing them. My last relapse ended when, in a complete blackout, I took a large amount of sleeping tablets and anti-psychotics and woke up in the ICU. I don't want to put them through that again, yet the devil on my shoulder still tells me to drink. I'm winning the battle for now. I hope your son gets well.

Cheri said...

Praying for you all. It is so hard to be in this spot.

Love in Him,
Cheri

Anonymous said...

We chose not to bail our addict son out of jail. He was taken off our property for trespassing - our choice to include the law after many years of badgering for money, many broken promises, many broken agreements, etc. He spent 6 nights in jail until he was released for overcrowding...guess where he returned? The next step is a court hearing which is going to be awkward - the parents sending their older son to jail/community service - whatever the court has to do to save our sanity. Is he actively using - we can only guess, but as we all know, the addict's personality is the most perplexing and frustrating to tolerate. We can only go forward and start a new day with hopes that we can stand strong to protect ourselves from this person that thinks he is "not that bad". My thoughts and prayers are with you as you move through these lessons of living.