Our son went to court on Thursday, his attorney was a no show so the judge continued everything to April 22. Mom and I both know he will not make it here at home until then. We've had a discussion with him (again) and before he gets the boot we are trying one last time.
We presented an opportunity for him to come up with a plan to ensure his sobriety. We laid it our that we knew from his past that there is probably no way for him to stay clean living here, in our home or even in this city. His basic options are to get an attorney, and his probation officer to speak with a judge and get him sent to The Center, basically a jail with no bars but they have to get a job and work and come back when not at work. Constant drug tests and officers watching over them. Or the second option is to find an Oxford House outside of the KC area, but it has to be in KS, probably someplace like Topeka, Wichita, Hays or Salina. We have offered to help him get set up again in an Oxford House. The stipulation is that failure or relapse is not an option. He controls his success and we will not support any further failures.
His one stay at an Oxford House in Topeka was for 6 months and he stayed clean. That was his longest time clean.
He owes us a detailed plan with defined measures of performance. Guess this is my control side. Before I invest in his plan.
Success or failure he has been told he must find someplace to begin his recovery and he cannot move back home.