Monday, July 20, 2009

Resting Easy......

As a parent of an addict I should know better that to even think about the words "resting easy" that's sure to jinx it. But luck and superstitions aside, hope is our drug of choice.

Alex is doing well. He is working hard and using his money to pay down his fines. He is stressed about his court appearances the next few weeks but he is hoping that if he pays on his fines and shows that he is working 2 jobs and putting all his money into what he owes, and he ask his PO to write him a note of recommendation, (he agreed) the judge's will let him continue this path.

Mom and I are feeling good and in a good place. I think it is because of two things. First, Alex is doing well and in a structured place that keeps him from using and getting into trouble. Plus he is working and seeing a reward for his effort. That is satisfying for him and us. Second, we are in a place that we understand he needs help from others. No matter how much we love him we have realized he needs more than us. That is now, that is OK.

Mom and I discussed this last weekend that he will need support from good friends and family. We know it will be hard for some to come around, all we can do is give them time too.

5 comments:

Lou said...

That is a tough one. Other people don't have the same unconditional love as mom/dad. They need to see evidence of a change, and I don't really blame them for that. My daughter tried to put her arm around her brother (literally and figuratively), but he kept shaking it off. Now she wants to see some long term sobreity before she trusts him again.

We love them, but sometimes their actions make it hard for others to even like them. I feel it is up to them to rebuild their relationships.

Gin said...

It sounds like you are all doing so well right now and that is all that matters. The here and now! I am so happy for all of you.

Madison said...

I like those two words, rest easy.

Barbara(aka Layla) said...

"Hope is our drug of choice" Love it! I'm hoping along with you for all of our addicts.

Syd said...

Things sound good right now. I'm liking that you have a heavy dose of hope. Hold onto that.