Wednesday, July 15, 2009

The Courtroom Roller Coaster

Tomorrow I have to miss some work to take my son to pay some of his fines. He is already stressing about it. Some of the places he has to go to pay fines he has outstanding warrants. He is hoping that they just take his money and he gets to go, I don't know, it is his issue. Next week he has a court date on revoking his probation for not paying his fines in one jurisdiction. He is hoping that by paying tomorrow they will not revoke his probation.

I can see the stress he has when I talk to him about these things. Before he would have been using due to the stress. In the environment he is in now I hope the intense structure helps him not to use.

My only advice to him was that he legitimately has these fines and he did commit the acts that got him to this point. It is no use in beating yourself up over this, can't change the past, you just take what happens, make the best of it and live it one day at a time. You don't like all of this then don't do the things that put you in these positions again. Try learning from your mistakes instead of repeating them.


Gin said...

I think you gave him the best quite frankly only advice that you could. I hope he learns from the past and makes the desicion to never go back there!

sKILLz said...

I think you gave him the best advice.
He needs to stand up and face things like a man.
It might work smooth, it might not. However what ever happens he needs to deal with it sober.
He should be grateful your by his side when he has to deal with this!
Stay Up!

Syd said...

It sounds good that he is going back to face some of the consequences of his actions. I hope that he learns from it.

Barbara(aka Layla) said...

Great advise. I hope it works our the best way for him. It's good that he's not using during stress, progress!

My son went to court today and relinquished his license. Did your son have to register as a narcotics offender and submit DNA sample?

Dad and Mom said...

No, I have never heard of that. But he has never been in trouble for using other than paraphanalia and I got that dropped. His problem is that he gets caught stealing to support his habit.

I used to tell him he is a great addict, but a terrible thief.