These letters come from all over the world. I have written people in South Africa, New Zealand, Europe, Pakistan, South America Australia and many, many other places.
Yesterday I received an e-mail came from a mum in Australia. She told the story of her son and their life. She gave me permission to reprint her letter and it is below. I print this because we all need to understand that in this battle none of us are alone. No matter if we are sitting next to someone at a meeting, sharing hugs with a relative, answering an anonymous e-mail or sharing with someone on the other side of the world, we are not alone in this mess.
This is an epidemic the world over.
Good Luck Julie, all my best wishes for your family and your son. Where there is life there is hope. We have shared a few e-mails, feel free to write any time.
Dear Ron I have come across your blog on the net and have been reading your past blogs. Our son, Andrew is 24years and other than me being "mum" not mom things are pretty much the same over here for our family in Australia. There is so little help over here and in our National news this week they are telling us young Australians are up in the biggest Drug users in the world statistics. It is so wonderful to read your feelings that almost mirror mine and to know I am not alone! We have been struggling with Andrew's drug addiction for 7 years and I think if only I had written it all down...this roller coaster ride that we co-inhabit with our son. he is living in our family home, on a methadone program and I think just maybe he has reached the stage of not enjoying the drug life and it does not give him any happiness anymore. He struggles with recovery and relapses are common. We are a middle class family with two sons, Andrew is our youngest. He started with pot at 15 years and was an A grade student up until this time. He has also been a poly drug user and has even taken to misusing his methadone dose and injecting it. There are very few rehabs in Queensland where we live, and almost all of them are 12 steps based. Total abstinence is impossible with him using the methadone and god knows if he will ever be able to stop. Trying to find a detox unit to coordinate with rehab is almost impossible. Andrew has been admitted to every private hospital in Brisbane and in every case has had himself excluded for misusing drugs whilst a patient. He went to a rehab down the Coast and was clean for 9 months!! He entered their halfway house program and started using again Then he came back home to us and we live this never ending nightmare. Fortunately he has not been to jail, I think our system is somewhat different to yours. Each court case he has managed to evade prison somehow and does not have a record which could be good if he does decide to get clean one day as he will be able to gain employment. However i sometimes feel it may have been better for Andrews recovery as so much help is given to them in jail. It is so true the codependency addicts families develop. My husband is the classic enabler and how our 32 year marriage is still intact is a wonder! All of the feelings you describe the hatred, the frustration, the sadness, the disappointment, the utter helplessness is everything that we feel. We cannot see a way out at all and wonder will it ever end? Or will he end up dead our greatest fear of all! Anyway Ron I just wanted to say thank you to you and your wife for your blog as it has given me hope and I don't feel quite as alone now.. Thankyou both so much.Julie