Thursday, June 6, 2013

It's Me Again

It's been almost a month since I last wrote. I think this has been the longest I have ever gone without posting, please forgive me. I have been reading and commenting to other blogs and answering e-mails.

Not much going on except work and life. Tired of the rain and cool weather. I'm a summer guy give me 85 and 90 degrees any day and I am happy.

Work is busy, working overtime, orders coming in like crazy. I am hiring people, hourly and management. That is an experience of highs and lows. Interviewing and hiring is a part of my job that I actually like and find rewarding. Finding the right person is always a challenge. Most people only have the experience of sitting on the other side of the desk and being interviewed. I know how stressful it is from both sides. Good interviewers and HR people know that it is as hard to interview as it is being interviewed. The highs are when you find that person and you make that call offering a position. From experience you can hear a different tone and reaction when you utter that line, "The reason I am calling is to offer you a position with......." The down side is writing those reject letters and putting them in the mail. I know the same day I really make someone happy I am disappointing many others.

The good news on the home front is that Alex is buying a house. I still have to pinch myself to make sure I am awake. I NEVER dreamed in all those years my son would ever reach this point. That's a lesson to be learned, never wish, dream or hope because sometimes you cannot imagine the possibility of reality.

They have made an offer on a house and it has been accepted. I'm not going to post pictures yet, I don't want to jinx it. But you can trust me it is dad approved. They had me looking at all of them they looked at to critique the condition and construction. They got angry at me with the first three because I pointed out several reasons they were not good homes from condition to construction issues. They thought I was just picking on their choices and got angry with me. But when they learned what to look for then they began to understand my critiques.

All of the grand kids are growing like weeds. Brooke is horse crazy at 4 years old. I don't understand it, none of us are horse people. I bought her a certificate for a trail ride and her mother went with her and she got to ride a real horse on a trail. I am afraid I did a very bad thing. Is there a 12 step program for horse addiction? I think I am an enabler.

Tyler is a ball of non-stop energy. That boy doesn't stop. He is very inquisitive, in a good way. Owen is a man boy. At only 10 months he has a very distinct preference to hang with the guys.

In August I will be going to New York for some special training provided by The Partnership at I have been ask to be a part of a new initiative and get this training. I am excited and actually honored to think they believe I could contribute and help other parents so much. The training is centered around the C.R.A.F.T. methodology that is proving to be so effective with young adult addiction. It comes from the book I have recommended to so many, "Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives To Nagging Pleading and Threatening" by Robert Myers and Brenda Wolfe. I read this book a long time ago and so many things just made sense to me, it clicked.

Just an update from KC. I do wish everyone's loved one could find what Alex found. You can't know how much I think about everyone and wish for that everyday.


Annette said...

Great news Ron. Amazing news. I am so happy for you. Really. And your work that you are doing on behalf of helping other families...thank you for that contribution. You are the perfect person for the job. :o)

Anonymous said...

I second everything Annette said! It's so nice to hear about all of Alex's successes, it gives me hope for my son and I'm sure it does the same for other parents of addicts, too.

You have been a rock in this community and helped so many people, myself included. I don't know how you find time to do all you do but you definitely have a calling.

Syd said...

Glad that so much is going well, Ron. You have done a lot of work to get to the point where you realized that you were powerless over Alex. Letting go and realizing that he has to make some choices is hard. But the miracle happened for you and for him.

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