Wednesday, June 26, 2013

I Have To Pinch Myself Sometimes

On Friday at 9am Alex closes on his house.

Sometimes I find my fingers striking keys on this keyboard that I never dreamed would be strung together in a sentence. Just shows me how limiting my dreams can be when they are applied to someone else. That's a good lesson for myself, allow each person to be all they can be and who knows, you may be surprised.

I always had high expectations for my kids. I kinda see the flaw in that thinking now. Nothing wrong with high expectations for them but allowing their success or falling short of those expectations cannot define me.

Monday poor little Tyler broke his toe and had to get a couple of stitches. I expected to go down there to visit him last night and find him limping and curled up on the couch being a hurt little baby. When we drove up he was sitting in a chair on the front porch with his daddy. He smiled and got down as if there was no bandage and big protective sock on his foot. He ran, not limped over to the toy box pulled out his bat and ball and immediately threw the ball to grandpa. He wanted play ball. Once again my preconceived expectations were less than what was real and possible.

Before we left Alex was sitting alone on the couch and I said to him, "Son, I am proud of you. What you have done in just a couple years well......I would never have dreamed. I am proud."

His response, "Thank you, I couldn't have done it without you guys."

Heart in throat moment.

12 comments:

Tori said...

Oh my that escrow went fast! I know you went through so much with Alex and like many of us who have children still struggling it is hard to imagine that they can come out of this and lead productive lives. But they can and Alex is just another young man to prove that.

Ming said...

Ah, the dream we all dream will come true for out addicted love ones. Mine is back in jail after getting off probation. Have the latest & greatest on my blog... ugh.

Congrats to Alex on this great accomplishment and congrats to you & the Mrs. enjoy this happy time.

Chelsie Charmed said...

I'm so happy to hear how good your son doing. I find myself struggling with setting higher expectations for myself. Im glad I read this, gives me a little boost. Take Care, Charmed

Annette said...

Oh Ron, such great news. I am so happy for you.

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy for you and your family.You are truly blessed.You and Alex give me hope.
Lisa

Terri said...

Heart in throat moment indeed! Thank you for sharing. It continues to give me hope that one day my son will get it!

Becky V said...

Gratitude is a marvelous state of mind!

Mrs. Dubose said...

A few months ago I googled blogs of parents of drug addicts and your blog came up. I thought I was alone. I have been writing about my daughter's journey with substance abuse and drinking on my blog and invite you to take a peek. I would love to have some readers to support me on this journey. As you know, it's a lonely one!

I am very happy to hear about your son. Happy for you, happy for him, and happy for all of us parents out there who still need some hope for better days ahead.

Many blessings to you and yours.

Syd said...

Great that Alex is where he is today. I know that the journey has been hard, but isn't it such a miracle to have him be clean and sober today? You and he have a special love from the trials by fire.

Christina said...

You are so very lucky that your son is now clean and sober. It is wonderful that you are sharing his journey so that other mothers can have hope. I have witnessed personally my close friend's 21 year old son's battle with addiction for the last 5 years and it is truly heartbreaking. It seems like it will never end. Your story is inspiring and I will be sharing your blog with my friend. She has an online community for mothers of addicts at www.addictsmom.com if you are interested in joining and sharing your story there too.

Dad and Mom said...

Christina,

I am on addicts mom facebook page. I don't usually comment too much on Barbara's page because I'm not the mom but I do read it.

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