Sunday, December 13, 2009

Weekends Are Welcome

For so long mom and I dreaded the weekend. It meant the phone ringing off the hook, mysterious people showing up and whisking our son away and phone calls on the caller ID specifying some local law enforcement agency. The rest of a weekend never came and we were glad to escape to the security of our work.

It is so easy to get back to normal routine. Not worrying about what the next minute was bringing is relaxing. We know that we are skating on thin ice with only a thread for a lifeline but we know our son is on thinner ice with a smaller thread doing the same. Co-dependency or not every parent of an addict knows how closely our moods and feelings are tied to our addicts actions and state of mind.

For the last couple weekends we have felt safe. It allows a freedom of thought that enables you to feel a measure of guarded physical freedom. The holiday season is nearing, it will be stressful but not nearly so much as the past few years. The growth in ourselves will allow us to be better parents. 


Barbara aka Layla said...

I know what you mean. I am glad you are able to enjoy the weekends for what they are intended for: relaxation and fun.

mike said...

Thanks for your post.
Yes, it is interesting when life settles down. It takes a bit of getting used to. Seems you've spent a great deal of time waiting for the 'other shoe to drop.' so to speak.

Her Big Sad said...

I will admit to being back into that unsettled mode, but I'm working on it! I think one idea that is making detaching with love a bit easier for me this time, is that that very same thin thread is what my daughter is grasping. She screws up - she goes back in, eventually. She relapses and stays relapsed, she gets to detox the hard way - at The Main. *sigh*

I'm glad you are having some relaxing weekends!

Syd said...

What you write about here made my stomach knot. But I think that you have the right attitude of doing what you can to get through each day and not become stressed. Sometimes it is just 15 minutes at a time that I need to get through.