Sunday, November 10, 2013

Putin' It All In Perspective

For the last couple weeks it has been very stressful and worrisome here at the Grover homestead.

A couple of weeks ago there was a mass found in mom's breast. This in itself is worrisome but with her family history we got stressed very quickly. Mom's family has a history of breast cancer in her family. Although her mother did not die from breast cancer, she died at 57 from ovarian cancer, most all of her family has died young from breast cancer. Her aunts and cousins have passed due to breast cancer. Her younger sister is a breast cancer survivor. She was diagnosed in her forties and is a seven year survivor.  So as you can see when a mass was found near panic set in for us.

The doctors were concerned due to her family history. They reacted quickly and appropriately. Sonograms were done to confirm what was expected. Once it was determined that "something" was there surgery was scheduled. A needle biopsy could be done but with her history we opted for surgical removal. Very quickly surgery was scheduled. The surgery was done on a Thursday. We were told results of the tests would not be available until Monday. Last weekend was a stressful time. Mom went on a girl weekend with her girlfriends. That was best for her. They probably took better care of her than I could or would, physically and mentally.

On last Monday we anxiously awaited the doctors call. Late in the morning the doctor's office called only to tell us that they we doing more tests and results would not be a available until Tuesday.

A very long twenty hours followed. I think we both handled it differently. My mind went to the dark side, mom felt it was more positive. We both handled the evening in our own way.

On Tuesday morning the doctor's office finally called. the tests showed benign, NO CANCER.

Getting that news causes instant happiness but it also causes a person to think and reflect on what has been. We are only here and together for a little time. Addiction, cancer, heart disease and countless other maladies are in our world to take our loved ones. Make good use of what time you have with your loved one today. Do what you can to enjoy each other every day.

Critical lesson learned: Because of mom's vigilance in doing her mammograms regularly the doctors and her knew exactly what was happening and what to do. When the doctor can put up multiple years of mammogram results it is graphic what is going on in her breast.

A special message to all you mothers and women reading this. GET THE GIRLS SQUEEZED!!! Do your mammograms regularly. There is no acceptable excuse, nobody is too busy.

To all you men reading this, make sure those women in your life that you love read this and make their appointment. Drive them if they resist. Just make sure they do it, imagine your life without them.


Becky V said...

Ron, I was so very thrilled to hear those two words!
You are absolutely right about the importance of mammograms. As I like to refer to it, "boob smashin' is a must" and it certainly beats that yucky prostate thing guys have to do!

Bristolvol said...

OMG, you had me in tears. I know so many women going through breast cancer and I was just hoping while reading this, that there was no cancer. I am so happy for you and your family. The stress can be overwhelming for sure. I have been getting annual mammograms religiously since my mid 40's, even though there is no history in my family. However my mom died very young due to kidney cancer.

♥●• İzdihër •●♥ said...

Great post !

Bar said...

Glad things are going to be okay!

As a matter of fact, I am having mine squashed (more appropriate description than squeezed - trust me on that) tomorrow morning at 10 am.

kelly said...

I am sooooo very happy for mom and you.. well all of you! Wonderful news... I hope all remains healthy for her!

beachteacher said...

My annual smushjng is due son & I'll be there. SO VERY HAPPY to hear of Darlene's benign report news ! Very scary, I'm sure. I'm sort you both had to go through that - but glad to know the outcome.

Dan Brayman said...

So happy to hear such great news!! May God continue to bless you! Dan-O

Syd said...

So glad that all is well. It surely is a scary time. My mother had breast cancer but lived to be 95. And BTW men have breast cancer too.

John Burns said...

I think this post should be a reminder to everybody to get regular health check-ups. Like you said, Dan, you never know what affliction can befall us. Glad to hear that Mom's okay!

Anna said...

I am glad to hear that you got good news.

Hattie Heaton said...

Congratulations on the good test results.

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