Sunday, August 21, 2016

Mom Has Passed

Yesterday my mom passed away. She was 86 years old and suffering from dementia. 

On August 1st she was moved into a nursing home. It became too hard to take care of a loved one that requires care 24/7. Those are the decisions that are gut wrenching. 

Watching and experiencing the decline causes a person to think about their own future and mortality. How do prepare for a future that may include dementia. Experts say that if your parents suffer from dementia you have a much better chance experiencing the same future. That causes me much consternation. I do not want my children experiencing me as I age backward.

I know it's controversial but if I get to this point take me to the vet and get me a shot. I've owned many dogs and pets in my life that I loved dearly. With each one they did not suffer at the end of their life. It hurts to watch that liquid being injected, but peace is the reward for both of us.

I told Darlene if I get to this point I have a plan. Everyone knows I enjoy hunting at my cousins farm in western Kansas. I told her if I get to that point take me out to the farm. Put me a straddle of a barb wire fence and then shoot me. Leave my gun beside me like it was an accident and walk away. Now every two weeks she asks me if I want to go hunting.

Ina Lucille Grover, age 86 of Kansas City, Kansas passed away peacefully August 20, 2016. She was preceded in death by her husband Ivan Glenn Grover, Mother, Father, and 9 siblings.
She is survived by her 3 children Ron (Darlene) Gigi, and Brian (Anita) Grover, 5 grandchildren and 7 great grandchildren.
Visitation will be Tuesday, 6:00-8:00 PM at the Butler Meyers Funeral Home, 6300 Paralllel Pkwy., Kansas City, KS.
Funeral services, 10:00 A.M., Wednesday August 24, 2016 at the funeral home. Burial Chapel Hill Cemetery.
In lieu of flowers the family suggest memorial contributions to the Alzheimer Association, 3846 W 75th St, Prairie Village, KS 66208


Anonymous said...

Even though we expect to lose our parents at some point, no matter their age or ours, it never gets easier. I'm so sorry for your loss, Ron. Your mom must have been a very special lady to have raised such a kind and loving son.

Annette said...

I'm so sorry Ron. I'm glad you had those few weeks with her at home with you. I know they were challenging, but that was time well spent my friend.

Ming said...

So sorry for your loss. May she R.I.P. and you have peace of mind. I am living this life now and fully understand what caring for a dementia stricken parent is like.

God Bless.

Liz said...

Dear Ron,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mother. I just lost my Mom in July and it is not easy to lose a parent. She is in peace.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry, Ron. We love our mothers dearly. It's been almost 4 years since my own mom died and I think of her daily. May you take comfort in happier memories of your mom.


Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry Ron. My parents are gone a year this month. It is so hard. You are in my prayers and I am sending vibes of healing and peace your way.

Tracy said...

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum.