Sunday, September 6, 2015

Where To From Here?

I still look and read the blogs of my friends that continue to write. The stories continue, some with good news others not so good.

I haven't purposely ignored my blog but there isn't enough to write about that I feel is important enough for you to take your time to read. This blog was the most important piece in my recovery as the parent of an addict. I owe more than I can ever repay to all of you that read and commented.

Today Alex continues to be a good father and son.

Darlene has clear margins and is scheduled for her implant surgery in mid-October.

Darlene's health realigned my mindset. Always before my favorite word was "someday". "Someday we will........" Today my mindset is more like the way of "do the possible today, someday is not guaranteed." It was a very fast turnaround in my mind. I am a planner and goal setter. Three weeks after Darlene's mastectomy we went to the lake to look for a lake house. A lake house was always a "someday" thing. We went to look and that very weekend we bought a house at Lake of the Ozarks. Forty feet from the waters edge, two steps down and you're on the dock. Peace is only 2.5 hours away, door to door.

Water brings me peace. I guess it is in my genes. I have never done the genealogy thing but I do have a copy of a family tree that was passed down generation to generation. It's on very old onion skin type paper. The first entry on the tree is a Grover in 1804. He was from Maine and was a Captain of a ship, lost at sea. I've always said water in in my genes. I am the Captain of a 1993 Mastercraft Prostar 205, that's as far as I get. Sometimes I wonder about the stories behind those names on that tree. Maine to Ohio to Kansas is documented, soldiers in the Civil War are all on this piece of paper. However, this is not a piece of paper it is lives. These lives are me.

Back to my subject, "Where to from here?" I don't know what will become of my blog. I surely do not write as often and the subject matter is certainly not focused on drugs and addiction as it was.

I am not ready to give up this old friend. My essay's may be fewer but I am not abandoning anyone that reads. Feel free to continue to write and comment. I care for you all.


Anonymous said...

Such a lovely post, Ron. Hubby and I are also 'someday' people. This is a great reminder to live in the here and now.

So happy Darlene is doing well. Such wonderful news! And congrats on the lake house, it sounds heavenly.

j byrd said...

Every time I see and read a post by you; it gives me hope......hope is all I have...we will never have any of our "dreams" fulfilled, we have been on this endless road for 22+ yrs……we are n are 60`s.....retirement is not even an option…………enjoy every moment, and thank you for all of your posts.

Tracy said...

Congratulations o getting your holiday house (we call them baches here in New Zealand). You & Darlene deserve it and I hope you and your family get many happy times and memories there.

Anonymous said...

Looks like a piece of paradise.Congratulations on Darlene's good news! Enjoy (but I still wish you would post on addiction, it was so helpful to me)

cy said...

I hope you keep writing when the spirit moves you. I was very glad to have your blog to read a couple years ago. It was very important to me and I learned a lot.

I still really like hearing how you and your family are doing (the good news and the bad) and I do care, too!

Have a good time at the lake house, hope to hear about some of your adventures there.

beachteacher said...

Yes-- please do keep posting when you can. Your blog is where I began,....back in 2007, I think. It led me to the others,....and gave me a community that held me up through the worst days of my life. I learned a lot from your writing & am so grateful to you & the others in our POA community. I'm so glad that you're already doing your "someday" things. You're so wise to get to it ! Enjoy the lake & the boat & your family. I continue to keep Darlene in my prayers.

Syd said...

Ron, glad that you are seizing the moment and enjoying the life that you have today. I know that someday may not come so I made a decision years ago to wring as much life out of today as I can.

We are kindred spirits with the water in our veins. Enjoy your time on the water, my friend. It is a place of such peace for me.

Hattie Heaton said...

Congratulations on clear margins and a lovely respite on the water.

Evelyn Kropp said...

I sincerely hope you will find someone to turn your blog posts into a book. I have been dealing with my son's heroin addiction for a year. Today I googled "standing firm with your addicted adult child" and found this. It is a balm to my hurting soul and provides me with much needed hope. Thank-you so very much

Brandonc45 said...

Hi, I made a Youtube video in memory of my brother Daniel, who tragically passed away 9 years ago in an ongoing battle for addiction. This video is in dedication to Daniel, and was also made to help spread awareness for addiction. If you are, or know someone, who is struggling with addiction, please share this with them. My hope is that no family will have to endure the pain my family has felt for these past 9 years. Please take some time out of your day to share with others and to help spread awareness!! Together we can truly shatter the stigma and stop the silence. Enjoy the video.