tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post8333666683093876485..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: It's A Man ThingDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-17935228058182490022013-09-28T14:08:22.960-07:002013-09-28T14:08:22.960-07:00For years, I didn't understand my son - even l...For years, I didn't understand my son - even long before he started using drugs. I was frustrated by typical, non-drug related family stuff. I didn't realize that the family disease of alcoholism was already at work in our home. When he began using at the age of 16, I was angry. At 18 I tried to kick him out of the house, but my wife had other plans. For years, we struggled, as a family, with the alcohol, drugs, police, pawn shops and on and on. It's been over a decade now, but it's all different. I learned that both he and I are powerless over this disease. My entire attitude changed over the last couple of years. I love him dearly and would easily and willingly give my life to save his. It helps, of course, that he's recently found sobriety but we all know, too well, that the disease is just in remission. Today, I look forward to his visits as he does with us. None of us will forget the past, but we have been able to forgive and let go of it. As a dad, I've been emotionally crushed, but not today. My hope is that other dads can find their way out of the pit as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-34433076300215945142013-09-24T09:53:53.835-07:002013-09-24T09:53:53.835-07:00Thank you for this. I am going to copy it and send...Thank you for this. I am going to copy it and send it to my ex. He is not dealing with the fact that our son is a heroin addict, won't talk to anyone but me about it, and I see him aging before my eyes. He, like most men, wants to fix this, and he can't. Not My Sonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08319439396578800725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-12676879623895312372013-09-21T09:05:55.174-07:002013-09-21T09:05:55.174-07:00My Husband is one of those who wants to take care ...My Husband is one of those who wants to take care of it himself. If he can't "fix" something he ignores it unless he has no choice like now. He is great at everything else except with B or when someone is very sick in our family...He has a hard time with it so he ignores it.<br /><br />Writing is my therapy....It helps me so much. I am incredibly grateful that you write even as Alex is doing so well it give us hope but still reminds us you and Alex were just where a lot of us are. Hope is what many of us need and you and Alex bring that.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16469486624859667837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-33226302557213870482013-09-21T08:10:18.573-07:002013-09-21T08:10:18.573-07:00Hi Ron,
Thanks for being one of those strong male...Hi Ron,<br /><br />Thanks for being one of those strong male voices that continues to bring the addiction of our children to the light. Sometimes dads do stay in the background and try to just handle their feelings themselves. Support in whatever form can help dads as well and is so needed! Cathy Taughinbaughhttp://cathytaughinbaugh.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-21917080786446855222013-09-19T05:58:14.821-07:002013-09-19T05:58:14.821-07:00I'm glad that I decided to be honest and share...I'm glad that I decided to be honest and share my feelings. I was so done with the masks and hiding the truth. I guess it took that surrender to realize that both men and women hurt and both can get honest and share. It's a people thing to be mistrustful and proud. It's a divine thing to let go of ego and outcomes. Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-57998066302392877772013-09-19T05:53:44.986-07:002013-09-19T05:53:44.986-07:00I appreciate reading your feelings. I often wonder...I appreciate reading your feelings. I often wonder what's going on in my husband's head regarding his daughter (my step daughter) because he never seems to want to talk about it. I worry about him and his health....it's a huge burden to carry alone. Thank you for clarifying a bit! Prayers for you and your family!phyllishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14008302360797249305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-58520006669624136752013-09-19T04:00:43.129-07:002013-09-19T04:00:43.129-07:00Funny, the other day I was sitting in a board meet...Funny, the other day I was sitting in a board meeting and to kick off the meeting a quote was put up for all to read. As you read the quote, it spoke about 'men' things and the final sentence simply stated, how long did it take you to say... I must be a man!<br /><br />Your post today, as I read through it, had the same affect on me. It's a man thing... for the second time this week, I thought I must be a man!<br /><br />Thanks for your thoughtful post.Minghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11551261947086193133noreply@blogger.com