tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post6262531603535887753..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: Fear and SuspicionDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-58951406857489565502009-05-04T18:36:00.000-07:002009-05-04T18:36:00.000-07:00It's nice to meet you both. I learn just as much ...It's nice to meet you both. I learn just as much if not more from the relatives of addicts as I do from addicts themselves. I have added you to my blogroll and will definitely stay tuned.<br /><br />Thank you for taking the time to comment on my blog, also. It is always very very much appreciated!DMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08546131126439484912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-39444496214702496082009-05-04T17:37:00.000-07:002009-05-04T17:37:00.000-07:00I got nothing to add. It sucks. Do you ever hear a...I got nothing to add. It sucks. Do you ever hear an apology? I never did. Do you ever get an offer of repayment? I never did. Do you ever get treated to a cup of coffee? I never did.<br /> <br />There is a concept in addiction treatment called "terminal uniqueness." That means every addict thinks they are special. They don't have to follow proven recovery techniques; they are different. They don't have to make amends; they had special reasons for doing what they did. That thinking is part of the reason they can take your possessions and not feel any (genuine) remorse.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-62270498534736480592009-05-04T17:17:00.000-07:002009-05-04T17:17:00.000-07:00It's okay to be human. It's okay to doubt. You h...It's okay to be human. It's okay to doubt. You have reason to feel the way that you feel. Just keep working your program and let him work his. You're all in my thoughts and prayers!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-31714940382071404162009-05-04T16:03:00.000-07:002009-05-04T16:03:00.000-07:00TOTALLY GET IT!! I still find things that I thoug...TOTALLY GET IT!! I still find things that I thought I had but found out are missing. Sigh.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-52257629639798296272009-05-04T11:19:00.000-07:002009-05-04T11:19:00.000-07:00Yep, I get it. For me that has been part of lettin...Yep, I get it. For me that has been part of letting go. If we are going to let her live in our house with us, then there are some things that go along with that. The stress and the uncertainty of if she is using again is one of those things that tumble through our brains constantly. It makes us think long and hard about letting her come back....because personally I am tired, literally, of living like that. There is always that pull though...she is our daughter. Our beautiful child, and it is instinctual to want to protect her. So far she has not been homeless. But if she ever was, I don't know that I could let that go for very long. I just don't know. All I know is that it is much easier to mind my own business and let her take the consequences of her actions when she is not living at home with me and I can see everything going on. The trust has been broken.It takes a long time to heal, to be repaired. A very long time.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-39732512080524716552009-05-04T09:40:00.000-07:002009-05-04T09:40:00.000-07:00I totally, totally, totally, get where you are com...I totally, totally, totally, get where you are coming from. I always trusted everyone until my husband's addiction began. Now I find myself questioning EVERYTHING that I hear, see, and previously believed to be true as far as he is concerned. I hate it!Ginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11927048986907155785noreply@blogger.com