tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post6063502939759257611..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: 3760 HolesDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-2211223789934451462009-12-02T11:43:13.168-08:002009-12-02T11:43:13.168-08:00I completely relate! And my heart is with you. My...I completely relate! And my heart is with you. My son is a heroin addict. He is in jail for the second time. First time, only a week and we got him out on bond and sent him to 30-day rehab. He used the day after he got home from rehab. Now he's back in jail. He's been in 10 days so far w/ at least 2 more weeks to go, possibly much more. He's looking good, but we don't know what to expect. Anyway, just found this blog and will keep coming back. <br /><br />I have a blog also (onemomtalking.wordpress.com) and you can find me on twitter under the same name: onemomtalking. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-53136368300205127022009-11-29T22:24:52.886-08:002009-11-29T22:24:52.886-08:00Keep taking care of yourselves and find strength w...Keep taking care of yourselves and find strength wherever you can. You are an inspiration to many, including Alex it appears. I am happy he is home with you both and hope he lives happily within the boundaries.The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-50001953876230020962009-11-29T20:21:19.521-08:002009-11-29T20:21:19.521-08:00It sounds as if Alex is growing up and making some...It sounds as if Alex is growing up and making some important decisions. I'm glad that you laid out your boundaries.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-17596265704311051162009-11-28T20:48:54.272-08:002009-11-28T20:48:54.272-08:00Hope things work out for you all.Hope things work out for you all.kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-78787318956604296242009-11-27T23:33:34.375-08:002009-11-27T23:33:34.375-08:00I know that there is no possible way to predict wh...I know that there is no possible way to predict what will happen. Even in the midst of "perfection" or "bliss" there is the unexpected and unforeseen. <br /><br />You are becoming well aware of the difference between that which is your life and within your control, and that which isn't. <br /><br />You still have every right to hope and to love your son for every good moment that presents itself. <br /><br />I am happy for your realization of that which is good, even in small doses. <br /><br />((HUGS))Midnitefyrflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12407438351469606532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-18207652938275787752009-11-27T22:43:16.907-08:002009-11-27T22:43:16.907-08:00I loved reading this post and I won't let go o...I loved reading this post and I won't let go of hope for any of our kids. Alex has A LOT going for him, including two parents that love him that are doing a great job. Its interesting...what fractal mom said about opiates staying in the brain for two years...Keven told me that last night and he was using it as a "possible reason for relapse". Ugh. I honestly do have a good feeling about Alex (not that my good feelings count for much! lol)Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-57949619383068503852009-11-27T15:19:48.029-08:002009-11-27T15:19:48.029-08:00Much luck to you and Alex. No offense, but this s...Much luck to you and Alex. No offense, but this sounds like a post by Debby, who catches a lot of flack for being hopeful. I agree with a previous commenter; it's different when it's our kid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-6083618246735400742009-11-27T13:00:45.807-08:002009-11-27T13:00:45.807-08:00When I read that post all I could think was, "...When I read that post all I could think was, "Praise God!" It sounds like you are on the right path :)Heather's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323023399443964827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-6915536481731821512009-11-27T11:51:51.065-08:002009-11-27T11:51:51.065-08:00You and Mom take good care of yourselves. I think ...You and Mom take good care of yourselves. I think that is going to be huge....as Alex watches you both nurture your own lives, it will send the message that you are no longer there to rescue him and he will have to live accordingly or bear the consequences. <br /><br />You and Mom are amazing and I was so happy to hear of the warm welcome the rest of the family gave him. You are fortunate and blessed!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-30167130169974476472009-11-27T06:56:39.541-08:002009-11-27T06:56:39.541-08:00I think your self preservation instinct is a good ...I think your self preservation instinct is a good sign for you and Mom.Anonymous :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14866852475568786172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-46318532123628340692009-11-27T06:44:54.209-08:002009-11-27T06:44:54.209-08:00difficult post to comment on. I am reminded of my ...difficult post to comment on. I am reminded of my son-in-law who just got out of his fourth incarceration.<br /><br />upon release from each of them, while incarcerated, he either 'found God', or 'found strength' or 'found himself'.<br /><br />I was always happy.<br /><br />then, after a time, he relapsed. to the old ways, to the old friends, to the old habits.<br /><br />some make it, some don't. we dont' know the formula, or honestly, there would be no members in these forums.<br /><br />What I have learned is that to change the circumstances, the addict has to CHANGE THE CIRCUMSTANCES.<br /><br />No same friends. No same places. No same behaviors.<br /><br />and, that is REALLY hard.<br /><br />I think the crux is that when they face adversity, and he will, THAT will be when the truth will out.<br /><br />will he run back to the known and to him safe?<br /><br />or will he 'man up' as you say and walk the walk, not just talk the talk.<br /><br />Time will only tell.<br /><br />I have great hope for him, and perhaps he is young enough that jail scared the crap out of him and he now see's his future if he continues to use.<br /><br />Medically, it has been proven that the brain does NOT return to pre heroin state for at least TWO years of not using any opiates or opiate antagonists (suboxone, methadone etc).<br /><br />Until the brain quits having that opiate receptor whispering in their ear how nice it would be to just 'let go and tune out', then it is a factor.<br /><br />One thing I have heard, but not seen my daughter practice is to substitute a healthy addiction for an unhealthy one.<br /><br />Was he ever into running? Extreme exercise? Anything at all that he was totally passionate about before heroin?<br /><br />that might....might...be an avenue to redirecting the dopamine and opiate receptors to feel good with a different, fanatical hobby.<br /><br />Just a thought, and I will be sending prayers your way regardless.<br /><br />LOL. and here I am, doing JUST what I blogged about this morning.<br /><br />DawnAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-42645700576530139332009-11-27T06:41:10.549-08:002009-11-27T06:41:10.549-08:00I bet you are exhausted. Thinking of you all.I bet you are exhausted. Thinking of you all.Chic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-29063938988699737092009-11-27T06:15:38.399-08:002009-11-27T06:15:38.399-08:00Really talking and really listening...it is very h...Really talking and really listening...it is very hard to do. I've learned it gets easier with practice.<br /><br />Alex is like my son. He will always tell me the truth. So many times my son tried to tell me his truth, but I wanted to hear what I wanted to hear. <br /><br />I loved this post. You have learned so much. One thing Andrew has going for him is he has a loving, caring dad just like Alex.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.com