tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post485748499207688925..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: Countdown, Christmas T-5 Days and CountingDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-56497508598885384632009-12-24T06:02:55.292-08:002009-12-24T06:02:55.292-08:00Great analogy about the sidewalk. I agree that mov...Great analogy about the sidewalk. I agree that moving forward is the best way. I learned from every stumble I made in the past and some days the old patterns are right there, working their way back into my behavior. But I now have a good bit of Al-Anon in my head as well and the steps are a way for me to keep moving forward one day at a time.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-86113155435208647302009-12-23T13:31:14.521-08:002009-12-23T13:31:14.521-08:00thanks for the post.
Yes, we can learn from the p...thanks for the post. <br />Yes, we can learn from the past, but should not ever dwell there. It is nice to read that you feel some progress is being made. Taking things slowly is best at this point...build the trust.mikehttp://www.patmoorefoundation.com/drug-detoxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-17108668382149570962009-12-22T08:50:31.263-08:002009-12-22T08:50:31.263-08:00I'm blowing rasberries at you for being so org...I'm blowing rasberries at you for being so organized. For some reason, I'm focusing my time, money and energy on homeless families. I don't mean to sound like Mother Theresa, but I only want one gift from my son-- his sobriety. <br />With that said, I smiled when you wrote that you and Alex "talked" and that you don't want to share it all (paraphrased). Amen! I think that my son is beginning to feel "safe" in talking to me. Alex has heard your lectures, Dad. You're far too articulate for your words to NOT stick in his brain. Like you, I feel these are intimate moments that I don't want to share. They're precious gifts, really. I pray that you will never lose hope-- which I think you show you still have. Please, tell Alex, that a mom in California is thinking of him-- relating with him-- missing his blog postings-- and that I am am praying for his recovery.<br />Merry Christmas!Debby of Oxycontin and Opiate Addiction: A Mother's Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881167853310152283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-45657667776131701952009-12-21T19:54:23.581-08:002009-12-21T19:54:23.581-08:00Wow Fractalmom,...great visual analogy...I'm u...Wow Fractalmom,...great visual analogy...I'm using that one ! : ) Thanks !<br /> LoriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-59482137239102260542009-12-21T04:45:01.718-08:002009-12-21T04:45:01.718-08:00love the sidewalk!! my analogy was always a timeli...love the sidewalk!! my analogy was always a timeline.<br /><br />draw a big line, dining room table or kitchen counter. HERE is the second you were born. HERE is age 83, when statistics say the average american white person will die.<br /><br />HERE is where you are right now. Look how much life you have left to live.<br /><br />HERE is what you are trying to accomplish. usually about one inch in relation to the entire life on roughly 3 feets worth of table or countertop.<br /><br />HERE is how long it will take to achieve your goal. (the one or two inches)<br /><br />It will be HARD, it will be HELL, it will be difficult.<br /><br />BUT...isn't it okay to go through THIS much hell (hold up fingers one inch apart) to GAIN THIS MUCH joy for the rest of your life (spread out arms to full width?<br /><br />Its all in perspective. IT helps show them that life goes on, even after the incident (mean kid at school, nasty teacher, drug addiction, etc.<br /><br />Merry Christmas and SPOIL THAT BABY !!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-70781723061795478822009-12-21T02:49:15.044-08:002009-12-21T02:49:15.044-08:00Did you go to that thing called Adfam? It is for t...Did you go to that thing called Adfam? It is for the families of addicts. I can't remember which countries it is/isn't in... I'm in the UK, you see, so I wouldn't know. I go to NA because I AM the addict...<br /><br />PS here's wishing you a very merry one this year<br />xxGledwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308172310486574510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-549528926804374482009-12-20T19:39:45.049-08:002009-12-20T19:39:45.049-08:00I hope you two have your best Christmas ever in ma...I hope you two have your best Christmas ever in many ways. The opportunity to become better presents itself every minute. <br />Having a grandson has made or Christmas so much fun. He's 3 this year, it's the perfect age.jeNNbig Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539934994452947108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-76015843233034781312009-12-20T11:54:04.032-08:002009-12-20T11:54:04.032-08:00This is wonderful news....congrats on developing y...This is wonderful news....congrats on developing your listening skills. Sounds like both of you are growing. It sounds like Alex has made done some serious thinking and is on the right path, I mean sidewalk :) (love that analogy)<br /><br />About those big boxes for that baby - have fun. It will be such a sweet Christmas with her, its so much more enjoyable to have little ones around on Christmas!Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-56105807158962668622009-12-20T10:47:41.257-08:002009-12-20T10:47:41.257-08:00Reminds me of one of my favorites:
"Though n...Reminds me of one of my favorites:<br /><br />"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."<br /><br />I'm so hopeful for your family and I wish you and yours a truly blessed Christmas!Her Big Sadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07872091902506034704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-23717034954590654592009-12-20T09:25:06.963-08:002009-12-20T09:25:06.963-08:00Listening is HUGE. Enjoy the day Dad.Listening is HUGE. Enjoy the day Dad.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-55899719189928859332009-12-20T07:31:35.938-08:002009-12-20T07:31:35.938-08:00I loved the concrete visual. And yes, I am learni...I loved the concrete visual. And yes, I am learning that hearing is different than listening. I try not to offer anymore "mom" advice unless asked. It is an ongoing process. I am happy for your talk with him..I know it did your heart good.<br /><br />NamasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-42421009536536655072009-12-20T07:19:09.431-08:002009-12-20T07:19:09.431-08:00I found your site this past week. Thank you so mu...I found your site this past week. Thank you so much for your posts and frankness. We too have an adult son who is struggling with his addiction. He has not sought help, so the rest of the family is working through boundaries and detachment as best we can. Keep up the good work, and God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com