tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post4207817668540894591..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: One Step Forward, One Step BackDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-52089723367829379002009-12-16T18:12:45.559-08:002009-12-16T18:12:45.559-08:00I'm sorry about the relapse but glad that you ...I'm sorry about the relapse but glad that you had that discussion and hopefully things will move forward with Alex on the path to sobriety.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-45259639480976836362009-12-10T19:51:26.278-08:002009-12-10T19:51:26.278-08:00Ron, great job tonight at the presentation. You w...Ron, great job tonight at the presentation. You were real, honest and human. My husband and I set a boundary about our son's illegal behavior with drugs and alcohol and we are sad that by using again, he has chosen to no longer live in our home. He is only 18 and still in High School. He wants to stay until the end of the Christmas holiday but we have indicated that the only way that will happen is if he has a job by the 18th (the last day of school). If he doesn't, he needs to leave by the 20th. If he does, he can stay until the 4th of January. We are all scared but my husband and I feel strongly that we are doing the right thing. Fortunately, we have managed to remain on the same page very consistently. Anyway, our thoughts and prayers are with you and we will keep you posted on our son's progress as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-5217369523371103802009-12-10T14:00:05.624-08:002009-12-10T14:00:05.624-08:00The problem with this stepping forward and steppin...The problem with this stepping forward and stepping back, is that you feel you are right there "walking" with them. *sigh*Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-88120572640309823202009-12-09T12:37:03.007-08:002009-12-09T12:37:03.007-08:00Let us know how the presentation goes....I can'...Let us know how the presentation goes....I can't wait to here. Them getting the real you is plenty good enough Dad!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-2317357162978952752009-12-09T08:54:51.268-08:002009-12-09T08:54:51.268-08:00My son is also currently living with us and search...My son is also currently living with us and searching for work. It is always harder when they are living with us and all the issues that go with addiction are right in our face day in and out. I like your boundary about not making decisions when angry, I try but sometimes still fail at that one. I am a work in progress just like my son I guess. I hope he keeps taking those steps forward and many less back.The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-37038430197594549612009-12-09T08:29:57.843-08:002009-12-09T08:29:57.843-08:00Letting go, for me, is a much more "in-my-fac...Letting go, for me, is a much more "in-my-face" challenge when my son is living with us. I know the hypersensitive-alert-status that I go into to try and detect or predict his sobriety, or lack of. I know that your speaking engagement will touch those hearts that are ready to hear the hope and help available.<br /><br />NamasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-55503538388882189412009-12-09T08:05:18.581-08:002009-12-09T08:05:18.581-08:00i only quit using dope one time. i was lucky thoug...i only quit using dope one time. i was lucky though, i am a dork and could not hit my own veins. for me getting really, really involved with my home group was a big, big factor in my recovery, hospitals and institutions is a subcommittee of NA these members take meetings into facilities and the rewards are beyond measure. he will need to have at least 90 days clean to sit on a panel, but i believe most home groups will let you chair a meeting at 30 days. try to encourage him to get involved, ask him what activities are going on in the area, i believe you are in the 'Mokan Region' I met some members from there this past weekend at the world workshop we had. i would have really liked to come to your speak tonight, i appreciate the invite. you should be proud of yourself. you really have used this experience to help so many. for him pounding the pavement and looking into school is great, but he needs a strong foundation in recovery, that takes NA. try to get him to get involved with NA i cannot stress that enough. the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is without parallel. i feel he is a lot like his father and does not want to go, he has a mental block and does not want to ask for help. he may feel surrender is quitting. like you once shared. merry christmas!!clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-4915050592704050942009-12-09T07:33:13.501-08:002009-12-09T07:33:13.501-08:00That's good to hear!That's good to hear!Gledwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308172310486574510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-35976090680308882812009-12-09T07:19:48.671-08:002009-12-09T07:19:48.671-08:00sorry to hear about the relapse. not surprised, bu...sorry to hear about the relapse. not surprised, but sorry.<br /><br />hopefully it will be his last. most relapse at least once when they get out of jail, just to see if they CAN.<br /><br />weird, but true. The next 3 weeks will be the crucial ones, for both you and he.<br /><br />boundaries are way important as you know.<br /><br />Good luck to the whole family and I will be praying for his continued soberness.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.com