tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post3698887552833687681..comments2024-01-26T03:02:18.654-08:00Comments on An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: Turning on the Good RadarDad and Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-5786055791551138952009-05-06T21:51:00.000-07:002009-05-06T21:51:00.000-07:00So glad to hear this!So glad to hear this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-35742708848574661402009-05-05T17:56:00.000-07:002009-05-05T17:56:00.000-07:00It is weird, and so hard to understand, but asking...It is weird, and so hard to understand, but asking us to quit drinking, at first, is liking asking someone normal to go on walking with one leg...<br /><br />it's really hard.DMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08546131126439484912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-10505758412280058342009-05-05T12:28:00.000-07:002009-05-05T12:28:00.000-07:00well talking about it really helps. it worries me ...well talking about it really helps. it worries me that he would go to a bar at such a young age in his recovery. i mean it is not just drugs to give up. addiction affects every aspect of my life and i have to be vigilant in my recovery, i haven't been to a bar in over 4 years, nor would i want to go. you are right to be cautious and careful what you say. it is hard and it sucks but he needs to be responsible for his recovery. that means being honest, open- minded and willing to do what ever it takes to stay clean. we went to every length to get high we need to go, especially newcomers, to any length for our recovery. because when we stop using narcotics our inner addict starts finding other things to get addicted to. to keep our minds off the solution. for me a big one today is over eating, but it can be anything i do compulsively to find something outside of myself to make me feel good inside. I know that it is difficult but it is so worth the benefits if he really gets involved with the program. many members have said that NA is like a lifeboat in a sea of chaos, when you are involved in service work you are in the middle of the lifeboat, and it is hard to fall off the boat if you are in the middle of it. see if he would be interested in being a meeting leader at his home group, does he have an NA sponsor if not he needs one and step work, step work, step work, that is when you will see some real change is when he starts real step work. how's that beautiful grandbaby doing? remember you have a life tooclean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-3823657970883034842009-05-05T12:02:00.000-07:002009-05-05T12:02:00.000-07:00It sounds like he's doing really good. I know its...It sounds like he's doing really good. I know its so hard to get your hopes up, to relax for even a moment. I've only been dealing with this since October so I am still a newbie. Has your son tried Suboxone? I've heard its had a huge success rate used in conjunction with meetings, etc.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-16834353469007360822009-05-05T11:10:00.000-07:002009-05-05T11:10:00.000-07:00It is so hard to be patient. We are a society of ...It is so hard to be patient. We are a society of instant gratification so we can't seem to comprehend that some things actually do take time. I know exactly how you feel. Hang in there!Ginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11927048986907155785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6644974106128239775.post-80723118888916307502009-05-05T08:56:00.000-07:002009-05-05T08:56:00.000-07:00"My picture is not his picture." These are the kin..."My picture is not his picture." These are the kinds of things I have to remind myself of all of the time. <br /><br />Going to a bar for a newly sober person is a slippery slope....but he saw that and came home! Huge progress! <br /><br />I started going to OA meetings...overeaters anonymous. I actually went with a friend, but once there I saw how I eat for comfort all of the time. Changing those habits has been hard. It really gave me a glimpse into what it must be like for an addict to quit using. Not just the physical addiction, but the emotional addiction. The feeling of safety and comfort that indulging in your addiction gives...that is hard to give up. I realized that my daughter and I aren't all that different.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.com